5 questions husbands should ask their wives

I saw this on YouTube and figured I'd share it. At some point, I'll sit down with my wife and ask her these, because they are essential and crucial questions to ask and it's always important to have that dialog open.

1️⃣ “Is there something you’ve needed from me that you’ve stopped asking for?”

At some point she asked for something - more presence, more effort, more emotional availability - and either nothing changed, or the asking itself was always met with defensiveness.

So she stopped asking and learned to live without it. That unmet need didn’t disappear though…. It became distance.

2️⃣ “What makes you feel most loved by me?”

You might be showing her love in a way that doesn’t match what she actually needs. She might need something else… but you never asked.

That gap between how you love her and how she actually receives love is where a lot of marriages quietly starve.

3️⃣ “What’s the hardest part of your day that I never see?”

There is an entire interior life she carries that you’re completely unaware of. She’s not hiding it, she just won’t tell you if she feels like you don’t care. This question tells her you actually want to know.

4️⃣ “Have I done something recently that hurt you that we never talked about?”

There is almost always something. She didn’t bring it up because she didn’t have the energy to fight through your defenses just to make you understand that what you did hurt her.

5️⃣ “What’s one thing you wish we did more of together?”

Just a genuine question about what she wants more of with you… because somewhere in the answer is the version of your relationship she’s still hoping for. She has thought about this more than you know.

PS. Put your phone away, be present, and actually listen to the answers. The listening is the whole point…